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January 2022 Blog

HAPPY NEW YEAR to you!!!

Sadly, mine didn’t start out “Happy” – instead, very rocky – but before I get into that…

I decided to start the new year with the Helplines at the BEGINNING of my Blog posts, instead of at the end:

If you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741.

If you or anyone you know is suffering from domestic violence and/or abuse, tell someone: friends, family, police or call this hotline for help: 800-962-2873 or 800-500-1119.

Thank you so much!  

This month’s blog is a continuation of my November – December 2021 blogs:  my dog getting killed before my eyes, a shocking, unexpected relationship break-up; and a cancer scare and subsequent surgery.  

I promised I would share more about these and my journey through these storms in this and my February 2022 blogs.  Read on for a more detailed account of my relationship break-up:

As I had mentioned in my November blog “… I was dumped by my boyfriend on January 3rd, by text message! (After he spent the holiday weekend with me and my son and said no words on the matter.)  He refused to speak with me in person, face-to-face about it, and after a week of my texting him and begging him to please speak with me face-to-face about it, he texted me: “Please stop texting and calling me…”

Now, this was not just a boyfriend – he was an “all but the ring” fiancee.  We had been seeing each other since late Dec. 2020, and in October 2021, we had signed contracts to purchase a home together, and to list each of our individual homes for sale, in anticipation of getting engaged, moving in together and blending our families (4 adult kids between us and he had grandchildren).  We had also recently looked at both engagement and wedding rings online.  We had already picked out the “perfect place” and the date for our wedding….so……to be blindsided by the inhumane way he exited our relationship and my life was nothing short of cruel….”

But to add to it – I must tell you that he also did this 8 days before my surgery!  Which presented a HUGE problem because he had made a commitment to me to be present for not only the surgery, but also to stay with me overnight in the hospital (because I know how medical errors can sometimes/rarely be unnecessarily fatal).  And also to stay overnight the next 4 nights at home with me – just in case of something “going wrong” – which was told to me (unlikely, but “could” happen):  bile leaking into my abdominal cavity.

I live alone and 30 miles from a hospital – I didn’t think it wise to be alone overnight those first 4-5 nights post-op.  So, he also broke that commitment to me, and since I have no family in the area, my sister graciously agreed to fly and stay with me.  The airfare was very expensive because of the short notice, and I had to jump through other hoops that were costly to make things work with my sister, because he backed out – which turned insult into further injury, (i.e. on my pocketbook!).

There were so many other hurts, that I don’t want to get into, or focus on the negativity, re-live the pain and hurt feelings/shattered heart, so, I’ll keep this month’s blog short(er) – lol!

The best way I can describe my crushed feelings and shattered dreams and heart is by the following memes:

l used to tell him all the time: The best things in life are NOT things, they are people!
I actually watched the movie about Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood while I was regaining my strength, like a hurricane stalling and strengthening…
This is exactly how I felt: crushed, under pressure, pressed and in the dark – and I finally came to realize that I WAS transformed…

Therefore, my “take away” Lesson:

I finally realized the first week of April (because a good friend told me) that “When it rains in your life, dance in the rain like nobody is watching!”

And I was able to do that once I was able to get on the other side of the acute grief from the relationship loss, ONLY with the help of a few great friends and sisters.

Finally, the same good friend reminded me that “Self-worth is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less” – so, I realized it was time to get my Mind, Body, Spirit Healing Institute Tribe and Webinar out there, so that we angels could help each other fly with our one and only good wing (see Announcement below).

(Please stay tuned for more on how I dealt with these major life upheavals and more in my February – March 2022 blogs, and for April 2022’s blog:  Springing Forward and Blazing a New Trail!!!)

****************************************************************** Announcing the formation of the Mind, Body, Spirit Healing Tribe:

Those of you who watched my October vlog, heard about my 5-Step Formula for Launching your Life into Hope.

If you are interested in working with me further and learning more about how you can infuse more hope and joy into your life, your relationships and your spirit-soul, join my Mind, Body, Spirit Healing Institute:  www.mbshealinginstitute.com and sign up for my FREE Webinar today.

****************************************************************** My personal message and commitment to you:

Since writing and publishing this book – Life Launch! Book One, I have committed to helping others work through their life’s traumas, by sharing my experience, strength and hope of how I launched my life out of mine – by speaking on podcasts & stages; through my website; this blog/vlog; and on social media:  LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube.

I also committed to donate 15% of the royalties from my Life Launch series of books, and 15% of the proceeds from the sales of related educational and healing resources available for you at my Arise! Mind, Body, Spirit Healing Institute – www.mbshealinginstitute.com

These donations will go to a 501c3 charitable organization I founded, that I hope will have a global reach:  “The Benjamin J. Dubrow Rainbow of Hope Foundation for Mental Health and Suicide Prevention”, in honor and memory of my late husband who died by suicide.

I welcome you to join me in supporting mental health care and making inroads towards lowering the rate of suicide completion, by supporting my work and this Foundation.

To make a donation, send to:  paypal.me/drlizlifelaunch and write “Charitable Donation” or “The BJD ROH Foundation” in the description.

Your donation is tax deductible and I will send you a receipt you can use for your taxes.

More will be revealed, Dr. Liz

By Dr. Liz

Dr. Liz knows that hope will truly get you back to a life you love again.
Dr. Liz knows trauma, abuse, and grief. From losing her brother at a young age to abusing drugs and alcohol in her adolescence, to sexual abuse at the hands of family and friends, to suicidal ideation, she’s survived the traumas of abuse, mental illness, and addiction.
Throughout her work with counselors, doctors, Eastern medicine and 12-step programs, Dr. Liz found the strength to move forward to live her life with hope, and use her expertise to help others on their journey to healing.
Her purpose in speaking her truth drives her desire to help others find peace, joy and contentment in life; to start thriving again after surviving abuse, grief, or trauma.
At the ARISE! Mind, Body, Spirit Healing Institute, Dr. Liz provides holistic healing strategies, education, and processes and practices to thrive beyond any trauma, abuse, addiction, or suicidal ideation.
Her healing exercises awaken the mind, body, and spirit to a new or renewed joy of life.
With an impressive career that spans over 30 years in the medical field, Dr. Liz is well educated in the workings of the human body; its well processes; why things go wrong, and the healing practices that get things back on track.
Dr. Liz is an international best-selling author with her first nonfiction book, Life Launch - Surviving the Storms of Physical and Sexual Abuse, Book One.
She currently writes full-time and works as a professor of pre-med and health science, and as a clinical professional. Dr. Liz resides in the American Southwest with her teenage son, her partner, and their two miniature poodles.